Don’t you wish you knew this when you were young?

That’s what so many of my clients and workshop attendees say! 

What if… when we were 10, 11, 12 - or when we were a pre-teen or teen we knew…

We didn’t have to silence ourselves to “keep the peace.” 

We could love our bodies, exactly as they are in all their unique beauty? 

We could have the confidence to explore personal style and how we wanted to express ourselves? 

How to get that mean girl inside us - and maybe a few outside of us - to chill out and leave us alone! 

Well, it’s here. 

Grab the girl you know ages 10 - 18 and register her for BOLD Virtual Camp during the boring days of winter break between Christmas and New Years! 

In this special episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser, I’m hanging out with my two coach friends who are teaching BOLD Camp with me. 

You can get all the information and register for BOLD Camp HERE. 

Watch this episode HERE

Why get on Zoom...Again?!

I know, we’re all sick of Zoom. 

Our kids are sick of Zoom. 

And… most of our states and countries are tightening restrictions again because of rising COVID numbers. 

What do we do? 

We’re tired of it all. 

But, it’s not over. 

Here’s what we do: We Rise. 

Yes, We Rise. 

That’s what determined people have done since the beginning of time. When things get difficult, they rise. 

Let’s name a few, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Mother Theresa, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Malala Yousafzai.

They showed us how to rise. Even if it means getting on Zoom. It’s a small price to pay to change a life or change the world. 

Here’s my suggestion, grab every girl you know between the ages of 10 - 18 and let’s get them on Zoom for BOLD Virtual Camp! It’s three days, two hours a day, Dec. 28, 29 and 30th. Right when they are probably bored with Winter Break.  Two hours is not long. But it is long enough to: 

1. Have fun

2. Make a few new friends

3. Learn empowerment skills for speaking up 

4. Have a fashion show

5. Create a vision board for 2021

6. Crush diet culture mentality that promotes negative body image

7. Learn how to be-the-boss over social media 

8. Rise above the mean-girl thoughts in our head and from others

There’s more I could write, but you get my point. 

No girl ever said, “Mom, can you find a way for me to spend more time at school?” And yet, they all did, we did, because that’s where after school clubs were, sports and band practice were… it’s where our friends were. 

Now they’re on Zoom, so we’ll be on Zoom. Not because we “love it” but because that’s where cool, fun empowering stuff is happening! And we all need more of that! 

BOLD Camp is here! Get the deets and register your girl, your friend’s girls, your niece, your granddaughter, your next-door neighbor, any girl you know, because this is going to be three days that can change her life and give her what she needs to start 2021 with a bang! Get it all HERE!

...Because…

I need to ask you, please, stop comparing yourself to anyone. 

Easier said than done. Right? 

The fastest way to have your day spiral downward is to compare yourself to someone else. 

Enter… despair. 

You’ve felt it. 

You’re happy. Enjoying your day. 

You started the day with gratitude. 

All is well. 

And then, you check FB or IG and… boom. 

SHE seems to be handling her kids so much better. 

SHE looks so much better. 

SHE seems so much happier. 

SHE looks like her life is soooooo much more together than yours is. 

The list goes on. 

Here’s my solution. 

STOP IT! 

I know. Not very “life-coachy” of me. But this is kind of like a kid putting their hand on a hot stove. For the kid’s protection, you don’t coach them through all the reasons why this isn’t a good idea. You grab their hand off the stove! 

Think of comparison at putting your hand on a hot stove. 

Be loving and protective of yourself to pull your hand off. 

You don’t deserve to get burned. But, you do need to stop putting your hand on the stove. 

It doesn’t mean you have to stop going on FB or IG. Unless you do. 

I bet sometimes your feed inspires you. Or connects you to people you love. All good things. 

And…. sometimes that’s not what happens. 

As soon as you notice it. As soon as you feel the “heat” of compare and despair, move your hand! Close the app. Get off the site. 

Go do something that reminds you how awesome you are and all those things you felt grateful for.  

Because you are unique. In all the world. For all time, past and future, there will never be another person like you. There is no one to compare yourself to. You’re the gift. 

PS Social media is just one of the topics we cover in my BOLD program. BOLD is for girls 8-18 years old. It’s all about empowerment, self-confidence and raising self-esteem! Get more deets and let me know you’re interested in learning more HERE.

The Notorious RBG

“Fight for the things you care about, but do it in a way that will lead others to join you.” 

~The Notorious Ruth Bader Ginsburg

She will be missed. 

“... for such a time as this.” 

I love that phrase... “For such a time as this.” 

You and I are here, in this exact place that we are in, in the exact circumstances that we are in, for such a time as this.  Just like RGB was. And thank goodness she was here! 

I thought a famous person said, “... for such a time as this,” until I was reminded that it comes from an old testament bible story! The story of Queen Ester. 

The “famous” person who said it was Mordacai. You see, Esther’s people, the Jews, were about to perish and because she was Queen, Mordacai believed she could persuade her hubby the King to spare them. I’m paraphrasing here, but he said, “Who knows, maybe you have become the Queen, for such a time as this.” And of course, Queen Esther saved her people. 

Back to you and me. 

What is it that we are being called to, for such a time as this?  

In 2020, we learned what it was like to have a pandemic hit, we could no longer ignore systematic racism,  we could no longer ignore how dysfunctional our political and many of our business systems have become. We are here. In this time. In this place. For such a time as this.

What is calling you, for such a time as this?

I know that one of my callings is facilitating transformation in the women and men who work with me one-on-one, who attend my programs, events and group coaching. I also know that it’s working with young girls to be empowered to know, speak and express their unique truth. I recently became a certified facilitator for Susan Hyatt’s BOLD program for girls, ages 8-18. 

Through BOLD, girls build confidence and self-esteem, create a healthy body image, and establish positive habits that last a lifetime.

Developed by a team of coaches, psychologists, and educators—along with input from girls—BOLD is a unique program that leaves a lasting imprint in young women’s lives.

The BOLD mission is to help girls feel strong, confident, and powerful. We’re creating a generation of young women who are ready to stand tall, use their voices, advocate for themselves, go after their dreams, and make history.

Personal transformation and helping girls feel strong, confident and powerful. For such a time as this, I have come. 

If you know a girl who would love to be in a BOLD class or work with girls who you would like to bring a BOLD class to, let me know you’re interested HERE. 

And I’d love for you to share what your calling is, for such a time as this.

BOLD Empowerment

It's been a long road to empowerment for me. 

What if I had known what I know now when I was eight years old? Or a teenager? 

We're always saying, "I wish I had known this when I was younger.”

Now, the girls you know have that opportunity. In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’ll share a new program I’ll be facilitating to empower girls, called BOLD. 

In the coming weeks I’ll be facilitating a program called, BOLD, by Susan Hyatt. It's for girls 8 -- 18 years old and will give them empowerment tools for dealing with social media, speaking up for themselves, loving their bodies, and more.

What I know for sure is that the girls of today have immense power to shape the world. 

I want them to have the mindset skills, body positivity, self-care, self-love and boundaries that will empower them to:

• Ask for what they want

• Never settle for being treated unfairly

• Speak up against social and political agendas they don’t agree with 

• Express themselves authentically

• Live BOLDLY with confidence

Listen to this powerful Episode, then reach out to me and let’s explore getting a group together… now. The sooner they learn these skills, the better! For them and the world! Brenda@BrendaFlorida.com