Do you know what you want this holiday season?

The most common responses I get when I talk to clients about what they want are:

1. I don’t know. I’m so exhausted I don’t even know what I want!

2. I know what I want, and it feels impossible to get/do/have because so many other people need me. 

In today’s episode of Uncover and Elevate I’ll take you through the steps I take with clients to help with both of these responses. 

Knowing what we want and believing we can get it are very empowering. I’m not talking about entitlement or selfishness, I’m talking about investing in ourselves and prioritizing ourselves. 

Listen to today’s episode HERE.

And if it all seems impossible… whether you don’t know what you need or you don’t feel like you can pursue it… reach out! Let me know and I’ll help you figure it out! 

I’ve got two fantastic tools for you today, one is my digital program, The Solve It Method™ that is on sale through the holidays. There’s even a VIP level with discounted private coaching! You can get all the deets and register HERE.

The other tool is my luxury retreat, Elevate Your Life. You can get all the info on that, HERE.

Please share this episode on social and tag me! Then I’d love for you to post a 5 Start Review wherever you get your podcasts. It makes such a big difference and will help others find the show. I’ll be incredibly grateful!

The End of Confusion and Frustration

If you’re sitting in your car dreading going into work, or feeling lost about how to get your spouse to really listen to you then today’s episode is for you! 

I’m really excited about what I’m going to share with you in this episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser!

It’s my unique Coaching process, I call it The Solve It Method™. 

It’s the one and only method that will give you my #1 solution for every frustration, every place you feel lost or stuck and any other problem that surfaces. I use it all the time in my own life and with clients.

I want to break it down for you so you understand how it works so you can use it yourself. Not only that but I am going to share some different examples with you that will demonstrate how this method of working on an issue really works.

Listen to today’s episode NOW!

New Year! New You! But how?

The Solve It Method™ is a coaching process I created for people who are ready to bring new experiences and new ways of being into their lives. 

Powerful ways of being. Powerful experiences. 

People ask me how The Solve It Method™ works. 

I love that question! 

I’m so excited about the easy-to-follow process it provides! Now, there’s even a digital program so you can learn to use it in the comfort of your own home! Get more info about it HERE. 

It’s a simple concept really, as so many profound things are. You look at the problem, frustration, challenge, place you're stuck, etc. through four lenses. They are: 

• Desire

• Thoughts 

• Feelings 

• Action

The order you use them in isn’t important. The “problem” itself might give you a logical starting place, but you’ll look at it through all four. Which is why it’s so effective. 

As you go through each of the four you start to notice what’s really creating the problem, that way you know how to solve it. 

For example, let's say you want to get a new job. You’re bored with yours and you know you can do better. The “problem” is you’re procrastinating on updating your resume. What’s that about? You kick yourself, spiral into some self-criticism and promise yourself you’ll do it tomorrow. But… you don’t. 

I put “problem” in quotes because the longer I coach and the more I grow personally the more I know that the things that feel like problems are actually like our wise self raisting a red flag and saying, “Hey, Brenda, there’s something for you to look at!” So I’m beginning to love my problems. 

Back to the “problem.” When we have a problem about not taking action or the action we’re taking isn’t working I usually start with desire, then move to thoughts. Either we don’t really have a desire for it, it’s someone else's desire that they want us to get onboard with, but we’re not, or we’ve outgrown one of our desires and haven’t realized it. To keep it simple, let's say our hero does truly and sincerely want a new job. Something she can sink her teeth into, grow and feel accomplished in. Great. Desire is in alignment. 

Now let’s go to our hero's thoughts. In everyone I’ve coached, in every situation, including a bunch of my own, our if desire is in alignment, our thoughts are the culprit. This is where imposter syndrome comes from. It’s where our limiting beliefs come from. Look at your thoughts and you’ll find at least one if not a cluster of thoughts like, “I don’t deserve it.” “I’m not good enough.” “I’m probably not qualified for the kind of job I really want.” 

Once those thoughts are dismantled, the action gets easier. (I give you tools for dismantling thoughts in the digital program.)

Feelings. What role do they play? On the difficult side they belly up to those critical and shaming thoughts and you feel discouraged and hopeless. But the wonderful news is, you can also use your feelings as an ally. Instead of feeling discouraged and hopeless, what would help you get excited about updating your resume? The feelings of accomplishment, possibility, the expectation of something great. You can choose to focus on those empowering thoughts and that will get your butt at the computer to update that resume! 

Action then takes care of itself because your desires, thoughts and feelings are congruent or in alignment. Your action becomes congruent and in alignment. 

Problem solved!  

While it’s an easy and super effective process, naturally, on your own “problem” it can feel more complex and tricky. So, I created The Solve It Method™ Digital Program for you and right now, there’s a super special price on adding three private coaching sessions to it! It’s a bargain. 

Check it out and let me know if you have any questions or wonder if it will help with your specific “problem.” That’s what I’m here for! 

Do you know?

Have you ever felt like you don’t know what you want? 

A while back I had a client who would draw a blank every time I asked her what she wanted. 

I had another client who knew some of what she wanted, but mostly what she knew was that everything she was doing WASN’T what she wanted to do! 

What do we do when our life is full of commitments and activities that we really DON’T want to do and/or we don’t know what we DO want? 

There are a couple of things going on for both of these scenarios. 

There are thoughts that are keeping both of these talented, smart people away from knowing what they want. There are other thoughts that keep them feeling obligated to the things they are doing or guilting them out of their desires and into the obligations. Thoughts like, “you should be happy with what you have.” “You can’t say no, they need you.” “You’re not good enough for that.” 

There are also feelings that go right along with those feelings that make them feel even more impossible to overcome. 

There’s a lot of busy-ness, overwhelm, procrastination, and other obstacles when it comes to taking action. 

And then we circle back to desires. What the heck do I want and if I dare to want it, how do I believe I deserve to have it? 

You can see how this common problem touches on all four of these components, desire, action, thoughts and feelings. 

I experienced it in my own life. And as I coached myself and lots of clients through their problems and challenges I came up with a process that includes all four. When we get our desires, actions, thoughts and feelings in alignment, we’re unstoppable! 

I call the process, The Solve It Method™ and I am creating a digital program to teach you how to do it! 

What’s even better is that you can get The Solve It Method™ Digital Program AND add 3 private coaching sessions to it, all at a discounted price I’ve never offered before! That way you get the benefit of some coaching with me to help with the parts that are hard to coach yourself through and the digital program to keep for your ongoing support and growth. The best of both worlds! 

Hop over now and get the deets then register because this is an introductory price and I’m not sure how long I’ll offer it at this price! You’ll find everything HERE.

We haven’t gotten through a global pandemic to play small. You are in the right place at the right time. The time is ripe for transformation and living in authentic power and self-expression and The Solve It Method™ Digital Program is the right thing at the right time to support you in your journey! 

How this works

People ask me how The Solve It Method™ works. 

It’s one of my favorite questions! 

I’m so excited about the easy-to-follow process it provides! Now, there’s even a digital program so you can learn to use it in the comfort of your own home! Get more info about it HERE. 

It’s a simple concept really, as so many profound things are. You look at the problem, frustration, challenge, place you're stuck, etc. through four lenses. They are: 

• Desire

• Thoughts 

• Feelings 

• Action

The order you use them in isn’t important. The “problem” itself might give you a logical starting place, but you’ll look at it through all four. Which is why it’s so effective. 

As you go through each of the four you start to notice what’s really creating the problem, that way you know how to solve it. 

For example, let's say you want to get a new job. You’re bored with yours and you know you can do better. The “problem” is you’re procrastinating on updating your resume. What’s that about? You kick yourself, spiral into some self-criticism and promise yourself you’ll do it tomorrow. But… you don’t. 

I put “problem” in quotes because the longer I coach and the more I grow personally the more I know that the things that feel like problems are actually like our wise self raisting a red flag and saying, “Hey, Brenda, there’s something for you to look at!” So I’m beginning to love my problems. 

Back to the “problem.” When we have a problem about not taking action or the action we’re taking isn’t working I usually start with desire, then move to thoughts. Either we don’t really have a desire for it, it’s someone else's desire that they want us to get onboard with, but we’re not, or we’ve outgrown one of our desires and haven’t realized it. To keep it simple, let's say our hero does truly and sincerely want a new job. Something she can sink her teeth into, grow and feel accomplished in. Great. Desire is in alignment. 

Now let’s go to our hero's thoughts. In everyone I’ve coached, in every situation, including a bunch of my own, our if desire is in alignment, our thoughts are the culprit. This is where imposter syndrome comes from. It’s where our limiting beliefs come from. Look at your thoughts and you’ll find at least one if not a cluster of thoughts like, “I don’t deserve it.” “I’m not good enough.” “I’m probably not qualified for the kind of job I really want.” 

Once those thoughts are dismantled, the action gets easier. (I give you tools for dismantling thoughts in the digital program.)

Feelings. What role do they play? On the difficult side they belly up to those critical and shaming thoughts and you feel discouraged and hopeless. But the wonderful news is, you can also use your feelings as an ally. Instead of feeling discouraged and hopeless, what would help you get excited about updating your resume? The feelings of accomplishment, possibility, the expectation of something great. You can choose to focus on those empowering thoughts and that will get your butt at the computer to update that resume! 

Action then takes care of itself because your desires, thoughts and feelings are congruent or in alignment. Your action becomes congruent and in alignment. 

Problem solved!  

While it’s an easy and super effective process, naturally, on your own “problem” it can feel more complex and tricky. So, I created The Solve It Method™ Digital Program for you and right now, there’s a super special price on adding three private coaching sessions to it! It’s a bargain. 

Check it out and let me know if you have any questions or wonder if it will help with your specific “problem.” That’s what I’m here for! 

Have you ever had this?

Have you ever felt like you don’t know what you want? 

A while back I had a client who would draw a blank every time I asked her what she wanted. 

I had another client who knew some of what she wanted, but mostly what she knew was that everything she was doing WASN’T what she wanted to do! 

What do we do when our life is full of commitments and activities that we really DON’T want to do and/or we don’t know what we DO want? 

There are a couple of things going on for both of these scenarios. 

There are thoughts that are keeping both of these talented, smart people away from knowing what they want. There are other thoughts that keep them feeling obligated to the things they are doing or guilting them out of their desires and into the obligations. Thoughts like, “you should be happy with what you have.” “You can’t say no, they need you.” “You’re not good enough for that.” 

There are also feelings that go right along with those feelings that make them feel even more impossible to overcome. 

There’s a lot of busy-ness, overwhelm, procrastination, and other obstacles when it comes to taking action. 

And then we circle back to desires. What the heck do I want and if I dare to want it, how do I believe I deserve to have it? 

You can see how this common problem touches on all four of these components, desire, action, thoughts and feelings. 

I experienced in my own life. And as I coached myself and lots of clients through their problems and challenges I came up with a process that includes all four. When we get our desires, actions, thoughts and feelings in alignment, we’re unstoppable! 

I call the process, The Solve It Method™ and I am creating a digital program to teach you how to do it! 

What’s even better is that you can get The Solve It Method™ Digital Program AND add 3 private coaching sessions to it, all at a discounted price I’ve never offered before! That way you get the benefit of some coaching with me to help with the parts that are hard to coach yourself through and the digital program to keep for your ongoing support and growth. The best of both worlds! 

Hop over now and get the deets then register because this is an introductory price and I’m not sure how long I’ll offer it at this price! You’ll find everything HERE.

We haven’t gotten through a global pandemic to play small. You are in the right place at the right time. The time is ripe for transformation and living in authentic power and self-expression and The Solve It Method™ Digital Program is the right thing at the right time to support you in your journey! 

What Do You Want to Slay?

I’m Sick and tired of being sick and tired”

A sentence that almost all of us say to ourselves at some point.

When you’re truly sick and tired, you want a solution and want it now! It may be something that you’ve been struggling with your whole life or it could be something that came up yesterday. What you feel is that sense of urgency to solve the problem NOW! It’s time to slay that thing!

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to dig deep and answer some  very important question which is the main theme of our today’ topic:

What Do You Want to Slay?

And much more.. Also I’m more than happy to announce my new SLAY DAY offer: It’s time to clear the deck! You’re going to spend 6 hours of uninterrupted time with me! We’ll laugh, (we might even cry,) we’ll unpack The Solve It Method™ and apply the four elements: Desire, Action, Thoughts and Feelings to the issue you need a solution to. 

Find out more about The Solve It Method™ Slay day HERE. 

Listen to today’s episode HERE

If you like Today’s Episode, please don’t hesitate to post a 5-Stars review if you’re listening to the Podcast on Apple iTunes or Spotify and leave us a review telling us how our podcast helped you in a specific aspect of your life. It makes me so happy to see listeners' feedback because it motivates me to create content that is impactful for you and other listeners.

This is What’s Possible

What if in one day you could:

• “Uncover the rocky places you are wrestling with.”

• Be.. “seen, heard and acknowledged while being recognized and respected. On top of that, finding a way to take the steps that YOU want to take with compassion, ease  and brilliance.”

• “Root out the lies you’re telling yourself that are keeping you stuck.”

• Live from this mantra: “I’m choosing not to let my mind go to those fears and doubts.”

• “ Instantly move toward your professional and personal goals.”

• Get “inspired to bring out your fun side.”

What if you spent the entire day with someone “completely focused on you and your goals.”

What would be possible? 

What would you do with that day? 

I am creating that day for you. Everything in the list above is something a client said after working with me. 

Let’s create those things for you. 

I’m offering a Solve It Method™Slay Day! This is a day devoted to diving into whatever it is personally or professionally that has you overwhelmed and frustrated. 

It might be a relationship, a situation, a “problem” that has been bothering you for a while and you’re ready to be done with it. 

Interested? Curious? Tell me about it. DM me and tell me what it is that you want to liberate yourself from. I bet we could slay it with a Solve It Method™ Slay Day! 

Are you craving self-trust?

I have so many clients who are craving self-trust. 

They second-guess themselves.

They are worried about doing the “wrong thing” or making a “mistake.” 

That’s before we started working together! 

One of the benefits of coaching with me is that I teach clients how to tap into their inner-wisdom. 

When we make decisions from our inner-wisdom we are confident. We trust ourselves. We aren’t worried about being perfect, so the concept of making mistakes begins to fade from existence. 

When I coach client’s I’m always using The Solve It Method™ in one way or the other. I don’t announce it to them, I just use the process with them. 

Now I’ve put together a series of podcast episodes to teach you The Solve It Method™ so you can use it on yourself! 

Get The Solve It Method™ Podcast Bundle right HERE, right NOW! 

Because of the magic of the internet, you’ll have it in your hot little hands faster than you can say, “The Solve It Method™!”

Then… tell me all about it! What did you learn? What did you do with your new-found, self-trust? 

This is how we liberate ourselves! 

Get The Solve It Method™ Podcast Bundle TODAY! 

The Solve It Method™: Feelings

I’m really excited about what I’m going to share with you today! It’s a continuation of the 5 Episode series that will give you my #1 solution for every problem. I use it all the time in my own life and with clients.

Today I am unpacking the Fourth and the LAST piece of The Solve It Method™.

<<“Feelings”>>  Feelings are powerful. Your mood determines how you interact with people, how much money you spend, how you deal with challenges, and how you spend your time. While feelings can have a helpful role in your daily life, they can take a toll on your emotional health and interpersonal relationships when they start to feel out of control. Gaining control over your feelings & emotions will help you become mentally stronger. Fortunately, anyone can become better at regulating their feelings. Just like any other skill, managing your emotions requires practice and dedication.

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to dig deep and answer some  very important question regarding the topic of the 5th and the Final Episode of our 5 Episode Series:

- How to control our feelings and not let it control us?

- How our feelings complicate our thoughts

- What to do to get out of an emotional state?

- How to shift our emotional state and use it to our benefit?

- How to not be a victim of your feelings?

And much more.. Listen to today’s episode HERE.

Listen to the previous episode, HERE.

Listen to episode #1 in the series (where I start with the problem) HERE.

Listen to episode #2 in the series HERE.

Listen to episode #3 in the series HERE

Listen to episode #4 in the series HERE

If you like Today’s Episode, please don’t hesitate to post a 5-Stars review if you’re listening to the Podcast on Apple iTunes or Spotify and leave us a review telling us how our podcast helped you in a specific aspect of your life. It makes me so happy to see listeners' feedback because it motivates me to create content that is impactful for you and other listeners.

The Solve It Method™: Thoughts

I’m really excited about what I’m going to share with you today! It’s a continuation of the 5 Episode series that will give you my #1 solution for every problem. I use it all the time in my own life and with clients.

Today I am unpacking the Third piece of The Solve It Method™.

<<“THOUGHTS”>> Thoughts pass through our mind almost all the time. Logical and creative thinking is perhaps the principal feature that makes us truly different from other animals. Our thoughts shape our life, shape who we are, what we do, and how we respond, for better or for worse. Yet despite their centrality, we hardly notice our thoughts as thoughts. We consider them to be our private inner voice that speaks for us and as us, Many people react mindlessly to their thoughts. In other words, they're-act-repeating past actions again and again-feeling powerless to change.

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to dig deep and answer some  very important question regarding the topic of the 4th Episode of our 5 Episode Series:

What is the difference between conscious and subconscious mind thoughts?

Can you have control over your thoughts?

How Thoughts Become Habits?

How to overcome thoughts triggers?

And much more.. Listen to today’s episode HERE.

Listen to the previous episode, HERE.

Listen to episode #1 in the series (where I start with the problem) HERE.

Listen to episode #2 in the series HERE.

Listen to episode #3 in the series HERE

If you like Today’s Episode, please don’t hesitate to post a 5-Stars review if you’re listening to the Podcast on Apple iTunes or Spotify and leave us a review telling us how our podcast helped you in a specific aspect of your life. It makes me so happy to see listeners' feedback because it motivates me to create content that is impactful for you and other listeners.

The Solve It Method: Action

I’m really excited about what I’m going to share with you today! It’s a continuation of the 5 Episode series that will give you my #1 solution for every problem. I use it all the time in my own life and with clients.

Today I am unpacking the 2nd piece of The Solve It Method™.

<<“ACTION”>> Taking action towards your dreams and goals is clearly important, but it’s not always easy to stay consistent and build momentum. 

Taking action is one of those important pieces to the puzzle along with proper planning and the drive to succeed.

How do you motivate yourself to continue working toward your goals, especially when you face challenges? When challenges come, we need to know how to handle them. That’s what you’ll hear about in today’s episode.

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to dig deep and answer some  very important question regarding the topic of the 3rd Episode of our 5 Episode Series:

How do you motivate yourself to continue working toward your goals?

How to be good at finishing things that you started?

How to start getting things done?

And much more.. Listen to today’s episode HERE.

Listen to episode #1 in the series HERE.

Listen to episode #2 in the series HERE.

If you like Today’s Episode, please don’t hesitate to post a 5-Stars review if you’re listening to the Podcast on Apple iTunes or Spotify and leave us a review telling us how our podcast helped you in a specific aspect of your life. It makes me so happy to see listeners' feedback because it motivates me to create content that is impactful for you and other listeners.

Do you want this as bad as I do?

I’m really excited about what I’m going to share with you today! It’s part of a 5 Episode series that will give you my #1 solution for every problem. I use it all the time in my own life and with clients.

Today I am unpacking the first piece of The Solve It Method™.

<<“Desire”>> The power of desire, your relationship to desire. Do you know what your desires are? Are they really your desires, or what you think you’re supposed to desire? Do you lean into them? Do you trust them? How would your life be different if you did?

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to dig deep and answer a very important question which is actually the topic of the 1st Episode of our 5 Episode Series:

What Do You Truly Desire?

Listen to today’s episode HERE.

Listen to the previous episode where I start with the problem, HERE.

If you like Today’s Episode, please don’t hesitate to post a 5-Stars review if you’re listening to the Podcast on Apple iTunes or Spotify and leave us a review telling us how our podcast helped you in a specific aspect of your life. It makes me so happy to see listeners' feedback because it motivates me to create content that is impactful for you and other listeners.