What if you could ditch self-discipline?
What if, buckling down and muscling through isn’t the way?
What if brow-beating yourself isn’t really working?
I know. It’s what we’ve been taught.
“Pull yourself up by your boot-straps.”
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”
If we’ve learned anything in 2020, it’s that what used to work, doesn’t work anymore.
We need a new way.
I’ve got the answer. It’s a question actually. A powerful one.
I ask my clients this question when they are exhausted.
I ask clients when they get stuck with:
· Ending the cycle of being a “People Pleaser”
· The business they want to start – or grow.
· The job they want to leave.
· The body they want to “improve.”
· Starting a new relationship that they want to be different than the last one.
“What would love do?”
It seems silly. Like it won’t work.
But let me ask you this? When you have a child or pet who you are teaching a new skill to, or wanting them to do something in a new way, how do you do it? (As the ideal parent or pet-owner that you are most of the time.) J
You lovingly lead them. You show them the way. You speak in a loving voice. You cheer them on for the tiniest accomplishment or improvement. You applaud! You give them treats. You brag about them to friends and family.
You don’t yell at them. Tell them losing three pounds is not nearly enough! That they aren’t trying hard enough. They need to put their head down and work harder! Stop complaining! Then throw in a bunch of punishments and penalties every time they fall after their first few steps or pick a cookie instead of broccoli. You would never do that to your child or pet, or anyone else you love.
But we do it to ourselves, all the time.
“What would love do?”
We have this idea that the answer will lead to over-indulging, staying on the couch instead of going to work, never getting any exercise, always choosing the cookie over broccoli.
But would it?
The question in NOT, “what would your inner-rebellious teenager do?”
Love wants the best for you. Love says, yes, to things that are loving. Love can say no.
Love wants you to have the life of your dreams.
Love wants you to leave the job or relationship that is not serving you anymore.
Choosing love isn’t always the easiest path.
It’s just the only path that is sustainable.
My calendar is opening for four one-on-one clients right now – one is for you. If you want to learn how to turn self-criticism and self-discipline into self-love, let’s work together. The first step is a free 15-Minute Discovery Call to be sure now is the right time. You’ve got nothing to lose and a lot of love to gain. Book your call here.