Last Thursday I asked if you knew what you wanted.
Hopefully, you shared what you want in the comments on Thursday. If not, feel free to share it here.
Now, let’s go from dreaming to scheming!
Scheming
If you have a dream that you’ve been telling yourself isn’t possible or that you don’t have enough time, enough money or any number of other stories your mind might have come up with, then you don’t spend time scheming about how it might be possible.
The enemy of possibility is dismissal.
As soon as we dismiss a dream, desire or yearning, we’ve killed it.
Like stomping on a bug, dismissal takes what’s possible and smashes it.
I’m going to ask you to be brave enough to believe in possibilities. We can’t scheme without some tiny corner of our mind thinking it’s possible.
Ready. Set. Go!
Think of your dream as a new playmate. It’s time to get to know each other. To play. To be curious. To open yourself up.
Instead of a bug that needs squashing, this is your new best friend.
What can you do for her? What would you like to do to please her? To get to know her? How can you spend time with her?
This strategy works with dreams of all sizes. Maybe you’re overwhelmed with work or kids or aging parents or any number of things and your dream is to spend a few hours alone. It may feel impossible. It may feel selfish. It isn’t.
It’s your dream because it is important. If Coco Chanel hadn’t gotten so tired of wearing uncomfortable clothes, she wouldn’t have designed pants for women. Thank goodness she was “selfish” enough to do that!
Love yourself enough to scheme about your dreams.
Let’s go back to the dream of a few hours alone. As impossible as your thoughts may tell you it is, start scheming. Get a girlfriend to help. As they say, “where there’s a will, there’s a way.” Get a babysitter. Barter with a friend to swap kids, ask for help from a friend or family member.
Love yourself enough to take what you want seriously.
For the bigger dreams like starting a business, taking a trip to a far-off land, going back to school for a degree, writing a book or becoming an actor, its’ the same process. Get to know your dream. What does she need? What would please her? What does she like to do for fun?
Break it down. Don’t worry about doing anything yet. This is all about scheming. Brainstorm with yourself and trusted friends how you might be able to take steps toward your dream.
Love yourself enough.
We need your dreams to come true, from taking a few hours for self-care to writing that book or taking that trip. We need your dreams the way we needed Coco to get sick of her corset and design beautiful pants for women!