I hope you’re thriving this holiday season!
I absolutely love the holidays!
AND…
My mother is in her end-stage of life, I’ve got a few family issues that can keep me up at night, and a personal disappointment I’m dealing with.
Being a life coach doesn’t make life trouble-free!
I have to practice the same tools I write about and coach clients through.
Because I am not interested in enduring the holidays or any other time of my life!
I want to thrive, regardless of my circumstances. That’s freedom!
When I’m drawn into negativity, disappointment, even despair here’s the first two things I do:
1. I ask myself, “Is it true?” I’m not questioning how I feel. That’s important. We feel how we feel. I’m questioning the thought that made me feel bad. “Is it true that family issues will cause stress when we’re together?”
Here’s the important part before you answer that question… take a few breaths. Quiet your mind a bit. The answers that come fast and furious to us are not our inner-wisdom, they are the stressful thoughts that got us here in the first place. We are INTENTIONALLY working to change our mental state which will change our emotional state. As my mind slows down I realize, the question can’t possibly be true. It hasn’t even happened! My thought is about something in the future, as many of them are, so I can’t possibly know it’s true!
Whew! Right away I can have some mental breathing room. I can remind myself that I don’t even know if my thought is true.
2. I imagine the exact situation, but this time without the thought that we’re going to experience stress when we get together. I can imagine us together as a family. I can imagine that the issues don’t even come up. Or, I can imagine they do and we have a really productive and healing conversation around them. Our being together turns out beautifully!
By imagining the same situation that I was stressed about and imagining a positive outcome, I am moving out of “enduring” and moving towards thriving.
I may not get to thriving in one step, but if I’m moving towards it… life gets better. And from there, it can continue to get better until I make my way back to thriving!
If this makes sense, let me know. If you have questions about how to apply it in your situation, let me know. I always love hearing from you!
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Because you deserve to thrive!