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I saw this Anias Nin quote the other day, "I am so thirsty for the marvelous that only the marvelous has power over me. Anything I cannot transform into something marvelous, I let go. Reality doesn’t impress me. I only believe in intoxication, in ecstasy, and when ordinary life shackles me, I escape, one way or another. No more walls."

No more walls.

That’s why I created the online program, Enough Already. To take down walls.

We all have walls. They keep us from living our best lives.

We get so used to those walls, sometimes, we forget they are there.

Let’s break down the walls!

Register today for a new program I created, Enough Already.

I’ll be coaching and teaching you on how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs that keep those walls holding you back.

You can do the program at your own pace. In your PJs if you want. We’ll have a private Facebook group where we’ll create community, I’ll coach you and we’ll support each other.

You’ll get the program on Valentine’s Day. My gift of love to you.

In the meantime...as soon as your register, you’ll get a link to the Love Bomb package I’ve created to get you started in the journey to knowing you are Enough Already.

In the Love Bomb you get:

Tips for kindly motivating yourself towards increased physical health from Alyssa Crawford; an amazing video from my friend and life coach, Monna McDiarmid. Monna transforms her limiting belief and frees herself to do something she’s wanted to do for years; a video on personal power and how to escape the disempowering mind-trips we all get triggered into with master facilitator, David Winkelman; last, but not least, life coach Sobia Durrani joins me for a powerful discussion on how to follow your inner compass instead of cultural norms and expectations. She gives you a great tool and practical tips on how to navigate living “compass vs. culture.”

You can leap over to the registration page and sign up today for the bargain price of $397. I’m even offering a payment plan to make all this yummy goodness really affordable!

On top of that you can bring a friend to the program and get an additional $50 off and so can your friend! Use the code FRIEND and when your friend registers, they can use the discount code too so they get $50 off. I’m going to trust that you will only use the FRIEND discount code if you have a friend who is also registering.

Let’s tear down those walls!

xoxo

Brenda

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Ever have that fear that you’re missing out on something?

Don’t miss out on this!  

Are you the kind of person who has a dream? Who wants to make an impact on the world? On your family? Your community? Your work?

I bet sometimes as you pursue those fantastic dreams, you get derailed. Something stops you.

I bet there is a voice inside your head telling you that you are not _________ enough to make your dreams come true. You can fill in the blanks in your own way, but here are the common ones I hear…

Not smart enough

Not educated enough

Not connected to enough of the right people

Not old or young enough

There isn’t enough time

Not enough money

Not enough resources

I’m here to tell you…ENOUGH ALREADY!

You are enough. You have enough. Right now.

Registration is OPEN for my new online program, Enough Already!

I’ll coach you through knowing you are Enough Already!

Enough Already is a program I’ve created. It’s going to take you through each “Not Enough” thought and disempower it. Turn it to mush. Make it melt.

You got it.

I’ve created a kick-ass online program. A bold statement. Why is it kick-ass?

Because I’m going to coach you through the entire process from those awesome, big dreams of yours to finding those insidious, beastly “Not Enough” thoughts. Then we’ll blast them with down-to-earth, hard-hitting coaching magic that will melt their wicked impact on your life.

How do I know how to do this? How can I teach you?

Because I’ve been there and done that! It’s a cliché, but it’s true… That’s right. I’m not too proud to say it. I’ve been where you are. I was so frustrated because my life didn’t reflect my dreams. I took a deep dive and discovered that I had all these “Not Enough” thoughts running around in my head that sabotaged the things I was trying to do to reach my dreams.

Once I know what’s in my way, I’ll move heaven and earth to get it out of my way!

I’ll coach you and teach you to do the same.

So, let’s kick some serious ass and get you on track to live the life of your dreams.

I’m looking for some really awesome people (yes, I mean you!) to register during the special “Pre-launch” period. Enough Already will be delivered to your inbox on Valentine’s Day.

When you register now you’ll get special pricing, a gift package I call “Love Bomb,” and a discount if you bring a friend to register with you!

I’ve set up an easy payment plan if that helps.

You’ll get the Love Bomb package within a few minutes of paying your registration fee.

Here's what you'll find in your Love Bomb: 

You’re going to get practical tips and tools for achieving better physical health, while remembering to be kind and practice self-compassion, from Alyssa Crawford. 

Get amazing help with body image and self-love, from my friend and life coach, Monna McDiarmid. There's a lovely video where you can travel with Monna through her own transformation of letting go of her limiting beliefs.

There's a video on personal power and how to escape the dis-empowering mind-trips we all get triggered into with master facilitator, David Winkelman.

Last, but not least, life coach Sobia Durrani joins me for a powerful discussion on how to follow your inner compass instead of cultural norms and expectations. She gives you a great tool and practical tips on how to navigate living compass vs. culture.

You’ll get the online program delivered to you on Valentine’s Day, February 14. It’s my way of sending you love on the day we celebrate love. It’s the perfect time to slay those “Not Enough” thoughts and kick-ass in 2018!

I’m not sure how to put a price on a program that will give you the tools you need to kick those “Not Enough” thoughts to the curb. What comes to mind is…Priceless!! So, the program price is already going to seem like a bargain, but you’re going to get it for even less!

You can leap over to the registration page and sign up today for the bargain price of $397. I’m even offering a payment plan to make all this yummy goodness really affordable!

On top of that you can bring a friend to the program and get an additional $50 off and so can your friend! Use the code FRIEND and when your friend registers, they can use the discount code too so they get $50 off. I’m going to trust that you will only use the FRIEND discount code if you have a friend who is also registering.

Don’t miss out. Be that person. Be the one who says, ENOUGH ALREADY! I’m going to kick my “Not Enough” thoughts to the curb and empower myself to live the life of my dreams! Because…You are ENOUGH ALREADY!

Register for Enough Already today!

OMG! Don't miss it! It's the last day!

Today's the last day to be an Enough Already Insider! 

We all have those thoughts that want us to believe we aren't enough. 

Not pretty enough

Not smart enough

Not skinny enough

Not educated enough

Not professional enough

Not creative or talented enough

I say, poppy-cock! You are Enough Already!

I'm creating a new program called, you guessed it, Enough Already. 

Today is the last day to act!

I'm offering special bonuses to everyone who signs up to be an Enough Already Insider. You won't get these unless you sign up as an Insider. What's the downside to being an Insider....NOTHING! 

Here's what you get:

• Four videos with some of my smart and cool friends, talking about things they are passionate about, that will help you feel like you are Enough Already. 
• A special discount when you register for Enough Already. (Hint: Registration will open soon.) There's no obligation to register as in Insider, so again, all reward and no risk!
• I am also offering a "bring a friend" discount so you and any friend(s) you refer to register for the program will get a discount. As an Insider, that's two discounts for you!! 

These bonuses and the pricing discount end today, so just do it now. Go to the sign up page and become an Enough Already Insider. You won't regret it! 

Ever Feel Not Smart Enough?

I have been there. Oh, I have been there! I'm going to share with you my journey of not feeling smart enough.

This is real. I'm going to be vulnerable.

I hope to inspire and empower you with tools to slay this "not enough" dragon!

If you haven't yet, sign up to be an Enough Already Insider right away, here: http://www.brendaflorida.com/enough-already-insider

Make 2018 the year of knowing we are Enough Already!

Be bold and courageous! 

Let's set the intention right now to leave those "Not Enough" thoughts behind.

When you feel Enough Already, you feel like a million bucks. There's no better way to start a new year. 

I talk a lot about Owning Your Brilliance. Several months ago I created a guided meditation to help all of us Own our Brilliance. The meditation helps me access that inner wisdom that knows I am Enough Already! Once I find that wisdom I can create an amazing life.  If you don't have that meditation, you can get here.

Slaying those Not Enough thoughts is an awesome way to Own Your Brilliance and believe in infinite possibilities. It all starts with knowing we are Enough Already.

I'm a life coach and pragmatist, so I love it when people say, "sounds good, Brenda, but how do I do it?" I get that a lot, so I decided to create an online program to help us do it.  The program will be a great way to work with your Not Enough thoughts at your own pace, day or night, whenever the need arises. Over and over if necessary. Some of them are stubborn little buggers! 

I'll open registration in January for Enough Already, but for this minute, and I mean right now...signup to become an Enough Already Insider. It will only take a second to sign up and then magic will begin! You'll get immediate access to some cool bonus material I created with some talented friends and coaches. You'll get the bonuses delivered to your inbox right after you signup to be an Enough Already Insider. 

As an Insider, there's no obligation to register for the program. You get the bonuses now PLUS you'll get a special discount when registration opens in January! 

Start 2018 off with a bang with this juicy, some might say, magical, Enough Already Insider bonus material. There are four recorded videos, one for your Body, Mind, Spirit and Soul. That's my git to you. 

Let's make 2018 the year of knowing we are Enough Already! 

Love yourself enough to say, "Enough already."

Have you ever thought…I’m not _________ enough?

You can fill in the blanks in your own way, but here are the common ones I hear…

Not smart enough.

Not educated enough.

Not connected to enough of the right people.

Not old or young enough.

There isn’t enough time.

Not enough money.

Not enough resources.

None of them are very loving, are they? Let’s love ourselves enough to say, Enough Already!

You are enough. You have enough. Right now.

It’s just a matter of finding them. Once you find them, you slay them!

I’ve got a new online program coming out designed to coach you through how to do it!

Enough Already is a program I’m creating. It’s going to take you through each “Not Enough” thought and disempower it. Turn it to mush. Make it melt.

You got it.

I’m creating a kick-ass online program. A bold statement. Why is it kick-ass?

Because I’m going to coach you through the entire process-- from those awesome, big dreams of yours to finding those insidious, beastly “Not Enough” thoughts, then we’ll blast them with down-to-earth, hard-hitting coaching magic that will melt their wicked impact on your life.

How do I know how to do this? How can I teach you?

Because I’ve been there and done that! It’s a cliché, but it’s true… That’s right. I’m not too proud to say it. I’ve been where you are. I was so frustrated because my life didn’t reflect my dreams. I took a deep dive and discovered that I had all these, “Not Enough” thoughts running around in my head that sabotaged the things I was trying to do to reach my dreams.

Once I know what’s in my way, I’ll move heaven and earth to get it out of my way!

I’ll coach you and teach you to do the same.

So let’s kick some serious ass and get you on track to live the life of your dreams.

Right now all you need to do is say “Yes!” to being an Enough Already Insider.

As an Enough Already Insider, you’ll be the first to know when registration opens. There’s no obligation as an Enough Already Insider. In fact, you get special, free bonuses that non-Insiders won’t get! No need to FOMO with this one!

Sign up now as an Enough Already Insider. Bam! You’ll get an email in a couple of minutes with your free bonuses inside!

As if that wasn’t enough….I’m throwing in more!

As an Insider, you’ll get special pricing PLUS a discount if you “bring a friend” when registration opens. All that for signing up now as an Insider! Remember, there’s no obligation to register. When registration opens and you see all the details of the program, if it doesn’t feel right to you, no worries, enjoy your Insider bonuses. 

Let's make 2018 the year of being Enough Already!

Are you your thoughts?

I was talking to my super smart friend, David Winkelman, of Winkelman Solutions about our thoughts. 

He gave me this great quote, "Your thoughts don't care about you." 

That got us going on a long conversation. 

David is someone who I refer to as a change agent. Change is his specialty. He helps organizations and people create change. 

I asked him to join me for a recorded conversation on this topic that I could share with everyone who signs up to be in Enough Already Insider. Of course, he said, yes. That's the kind of guy he is. 

I had this idea that I wanted to give everyone who signed up as an Enough Already Insider, some cool bonuses, just for signing up. 

The idea took wings and flew! When you sign up to be an Enough Already Insider, you'll get my conversation with David. It's juicy and delicious!  But, that's not all, as they say! 

I talked to some other cool friends and we've created a body, mind, spirit and soul bonus package for you. Here's how it looks: 

Body: Certified Fitness Instructor and Nutrition Advocate, Alyssa Crawford is going to talk about the CORE 4. These are four simple things you can easily implement as we start a new year and you think about improvements you may want to make to your body. Alyssa isn't going to tell you to do 40 push-ups, so no worries. I am terrible at getting regular exercise, but her CORE 4 left me feeling like, "I can do that!" Join Alyssa and I as we chat from her LA home. 

Mind: This the talented David Winkelman and the conversation about our thoughts not caring about us. You won't want to miss this. 

Spirit: My beautiful friend and certified life coach, Monna McDiarmid created an audio of a poem she wrote about self-compassion. I met Monna in Paris on a retreat. This woman is so beautiful, inside and out, it is stunning. She has the most beautiful way of practicing the art of self-compassion, something most of us aren't very good at. I asked her to share some of her secrets with us. 

Soul: That's me. I've got a guided meditation you'll be able to download, plus a worksheet to support you in recording your insights from the meditation. I love guided meditation because it's a lot 'easier' than trying to sit still and will yourself to clear you mind. Your mind will follow the imagery and scenes I describe. That serves to free your soul to get in touch with the soul's mother-ship, the Divine. From there you can 'hear' what the Divine has for you. 

I hope you'll decide to join the Enough Already Insider group! You'll get these delicious bonuses, plus, a special discount when Enough Already registration opens.

I've also decided to offer a "bring a friend" discount! I'll give you, and as many friends as you want, a discount! If you're an Insider, that means two discounts. We're going to have a private Facebook group as part of the Enough Already program and I know you'll enjoy going through the program with a friend. So, grab her (or him, all men are welcome!) and have them sign up as an Enough Already Insider so they get these yummy bonuses, then you'll both get a discount when you register. 

Remember, there's no obligation to register for the program as an Enough Already Insider. Enjoy the bonuses as our New Year's gift to you! 

I'm Looking for Some Awesome People

I'm Looking for Some Really Awesome People.

Yes, I mean you!

Are you the kind of person who has a dream? Who wants to make an impact on the world? On your family? Your community? Your work?

I bet sometimes as you pursue those fantastic dreams, you get derailed. Something stops you.

I bet there is a voice inside your head telling you that you are not _________ enough to make your dreams come true.

Enough Already!

That's right. You are enough. You have enough.

Your dream is sacred. Your dream is your unique contribution to the world. We desperately need your dream to come into form.

Ready to kick "Not Enough" in the butt?

I am. I want to take you with me on the journey and kick those damn thoughts in the butt! I've learned this through experience. It's not theory. This shit works.

Join me for an online program I'll be creating called...you guessed it...Enough Already.

We'll dream our dreams, kick our Not Enough thoughts to the curb and take action to get our dreams out into the world.

Do this now.

Sign-up to be an Enough Already Insider. That's the special group who will be the first to know when the program is ready for registration.

Why is it special? First, there's no obligation. Second, you get free gifts, and who doesn't love that? You'll get them a few minutes after you sign-up. Third, you’ll get special pricing, when registration opens for Enough Already.

I'm also going to be offering a "bring a friend" discount for Enough Already. That way you can share this with a friend and when they register you both get a $50 discount! 

So, go ahead, forward this email to a friend now. That way you can both be Enough Already Insiders and when registration opens there will be instructions as to how to get your "bring a friend" discount. 

Be that person! Be the one who says, ENOUGH ALREADY! I’m going to kick my “Not Enough” thoughts to the curb and empower myself to live the life of my dreams! Because…You are ENOUGH ALREADY!

It's Christmas Day! Feeling like you're not prepared enough?

It’s Christmas day. The 12th day of our 12 Days of Enough.

Maybe you were up into the wee hours of the morning wrapping presents. Maybe you don’t have all the food prep done for the day that you hoped for.

Here’s my Lifestyle Advice for this not enough thought: Toss it in the trash.

It’s Christmas. What ever is done, is done, and what isn’t done may not get done-- and that’s okay.

Do you know why it’s okay? Because it’s the truth. 

The truth, even an inconvenient one, is less stressful than all the thoughts about how it should be another way.

Give yourself the best Christmas present ever.

Be enough. You’ve done enough. If that means there aren’t rolls with dinner or you eat a little later or go out for Chinese food, who really cares?

Celebrate the season. Celebrate love. Celebrate you, because you are enough already!

Please feel free give the gift of being enough to your friends by sharing this with them! They can click here to get the series delivered directly to them. 

Do you feel like you aren't talented enough for holiday decorating?

It's Christmas Eve and our 11th day of 12 Days of Enough. 

I know it's quite possible that by now, you feel like you are not talented enough for all the things that need to be done to be ready for the next few days. 

Here's my Lifestyle Advice: I loved the movie Bad Moms, so naturally, when Bad Moms Christmas came out I had to go see it. If you’re struggling with almost anything that feels ‘not enough’ to you this season, I recommend watching these movies! They are about giving up all these impossibly perfect ideas and ideals of how things “should” be and enjoying true connection.

That’s what we all remember about special occasions, like holidays. Who was there? The fun we had. The memories we made. Not whether or not the wrapping was perfect and color coordinated, or the cookies were all homemade and perfect or that the house was decorated to the nines. Those things can be fun. If you enjoy them, do them. Just do them from a place of love and the pleasure of doing it. Otherwise, I suggest ditching it.

Ditch it

When I was decorating this year, I was arranging things and getting everything where I wanted it to go. I’m in a new apartment this year, so I’ve not decorated it before. I was all but done and everything looked beautiful to me.

Then, I remembered I have about 18 feet of beautiful garland I bought last year. It has gold tips on the greenery and pine cones, (I’m okay if that sounds hideous to you, but I love it!) and I had thought I would put it over my kitchen cabinets. There’s a nice open soffit and I could drape it across the top of the cabinets. I even thought a string of lights would look great.

The day was ending and, as I said, I loved the decorating I had done, then I remembered that garland. I thought about it and the work to put it up and take it down and decided to ditch it. Yep. I left the garland in the box for next year, or the year after that. It just felt like “too much” to do.

That’s a great sign. When it feels like “too much,” it probably is and you can ditch it. Does that mean someone might notice, if you stop doing something you've historically done, and say something about it? Sure.

And to that, I’d like to say, “I respectfully do not care.” It’s funny and true, people, especially family, can get very accustomed to what we “usually” do. When we don’t do it or change things up a bit, we can get push-back. That’s okay. You haven’t done anything wrong. Just different. Let them be with their disappointment and you keep being with yourself and notice how good it feels to honor yourself and what you want to do.

Enough Already! You are enough. You do enough. You have enough. Now, that’s living lavishly!

Please feel free give the gift of being enough to your friends by sharing this with them! They can click here to get the series delivered directly to them. 

Are you brave enough to ask for a raise or promotion?

Not feeling brave enough?

Today is day 10 of 12 Days of Enough.

It's the time of year where there are often opportunities ask for a raise or promotion, or for those entrepreneurs out there, raise your prices. 

If you aren't feeling brave enough, here's my Lifestyle Advice: Bravery takes practice.

Bravery is a skill, like any other. I was watching a great interview with Tim Ferris and Marie Forlio. They were talking about practicing in small ways for big moments. That way, when the big moment comes, you’re ready for it. Tim was talking about all the publishers who rejected his best-selling book, The Four-Hour Work Week.

He was rejected tons of times before the book was finally accepted. He said he would practice being rejected in small ways. Asking a barista at Starbucks if he could have a discount on his order. Just to hear the “no.” To get used to it.

Bravery is similar.

Practice it in small ways.

Ask for the table you want at your favorite restaurant. You may not always get it, but you will sometimes.

Being brave isn’t about getting your way, it’s about being willing to ask for what you want.

If you don’t practice bravery in small ways, chances are, you won’t have it when it comes to something big like a raise or promotion.

You can cram for this if necessary! Depending on how soon you need to ask for the raise or promotion (or raise your prices), you can start with doing one brave thing a day. If you don’t have much time, make it two or three things a day.

Remember it’s not about the outcome. Of course, we love it when we get a “yes” for our bravery, but the win is in the act of doing what scares us. Period. Give yourself the credit for doing it.

Being brave is a skill. It’s like a muscle. If you haven’t been exercising it, it’s probably pretty weak. As soon as you exercise it, the strength builds and then it’s there when you need it.

Because, you are brave enough! You might just need a little practice at it. :) 

Please feel free give the gift of being enough to your friends by sharing this with them! They can click here to get the series delivered directly to them. 

I'm not busy enough

What!? Is that a typo?

Not at all. It's day nine of 12 Days of Enough and I know at the holidays, there are times we feel like we aren’t busy enough.

What that usually translates into is not being popular enough or not having enough friends or family. You’re lonely. You have too much time on your hands.

Here's my "not busy enough" story

I remember one Christmas morning. It was the first time, post-divorce, that my kids were with their dad, instead of waking up with me.

Let me tell you, it was the quietest, calmest Christmas morning ever and I hated it! I definitely didn’t feel busy enough.

What’s my Lifestyle Advice for this one?

Be good to yourself. Even if that means having a good cry. Just don’t get stuck in the crying.

Take yourself out to a movie or grab a good book.

Volunteer and help those who need you.

This is the perfect time to give back. It will keep you busy, grateful and feeling connected to the community. We’re never alone. There are so many people who long for connection and acceptance. Give what you want. Connection and acceptance.

That’s the gift that keeps on giving.

Please feel free give the gift of being enough to your friends by sharing this with them! They can click here to get the series delivered directly to them. 

Ever feel not smart enough to mix and mingle at a holiday party?

Holiday Parties!

They can be a blessing or a curse! It's day eight of 12 Days of Enough.

Today we're tackling that awful feeling of not being smart enough to mix and mingle at a holiday party. Maybe it's your spouse's company party. Maybe it's an event at your kid's school. Whatever it is, you may worried you won't have enough clever and interesting things to say. You don't feel smart enough. 

Here's my Lifestyle Advice: I hate to say it, but this is all in your head!

You’re plenty smart. What I mean is that I don’t care what your IQ is. We’ve all met plenty of Brainiacs who made us want to stab our eyes out in 30 seconds! That’s not who you are or who you want to be.

Mixing and mingling at a party isn’t about how smart you are. It’s your passion, authenticity and an interesting story or two. You know a lot. You’ve done a lot.

Make a list of hobbies you have or issues you follow. Places you’ve traveled or want to travel to, interesting people you’ve interacted with through the years, funny things that happened to you, even embarrassing moments that you learned from.

It's your bag of party tricks! If you’re really nervous, have a few stories in mind that you could talk about. What makes a person interesting and fun to mingle with is their willingness to be authentic.

Think about it, how many times have you stayed in a conversation longer than you intended because the person was so into what they were talking about, you couldn’t tear yourself away? Passion and authenticity are very charismatic and appealing. This isn’t Jeopardy, it’s a party. Leave your self-doubt at home.

I have one more recommendation: do the Own Your Brilliance Meditation before you go. That will calm your nerves and get you centered. Wear something that will boost your self-confidence.

You are brilliant. You are unique. No one can offer this party what you can. The most fascinating thing about you….is you! Knock-em’ dead at the party, my friend!

Please feel free give the gift of being enough to your friends by sharing this with them! They can click here to get the series delivered directly to them. 

Feeling like you're not thin enough to wear party clothes?

Not thin enough? It's day seven of 12 Day of Enough. Let's slay this one!

This calls for some serious Live Lavishly Lifestyle Advice: Let’s start with physical style and fit.

Even the party clothes we wear once a year need to be replaced, repaired or altered if they aren’t fitting this year’s body just right.

In order to feel our best, we need clothes that feel stylish to us. That doesn’t mean they are stylish to everyone. You can skip looking at fashion magazines, unless you can look and get inspired by them.

There’s no judgment. No right or wrong. The question is: what feels fun and flattering to you? If you’re stuck, phone a stylish friend, or go to a store that has a stylist, or good sales people who will help you.

My number one recommendation, as you’re deciding on style is to always select something that accentuate your best body part(s), whether that’s your booty, your legs, your arms, your collarbone, it doesn’t matter what part, just draw everyone’s attention to that spot.

This includes your attention. When you look in the mirror, focus on that beautiful spot. Glance at the rest to check for fuzz balls or dog hair, but other than that, focus on your most beautiful spot. 

Next, let’s check in on the mental style and fit

No matter how beautiful your body looks, if your mind is telling you a story about not being thin enough…you’re sunk.

I’d like for you to take that thought and turn it into a wounded animal. Yes. I'm serious. Picture an animal that's been hurt. You wouldn't yell at it or shame it. You wouldn't hide it is a corner hoping it heals on it's own.

Take that animal out and love her. Be gentle. Let her know how important it is for you to take care of her. Coo over her until she relaxes. 

She may not be totally transformed by party time, but hopefully you can get her from cowering in the corner to sitting in your lap.

Remember, the voice in your head telling you that you aren’t thin enough….she is the wounded animal that needs love.

Unconditional love and acceptance

That wounded part of yourself needs to know that her value isn’t based on her size. She is worthy and lovable because…she was born. Because she is a unique expression of the Divine.

The Divine comes in all shapes, sizes and colors and every one of them is worthy and beautiful.

Now, smile and be on your way. Carry with you the glow of unconditional love. Even if no one else has ever given it to you, you have the power to give it to yourself. An no one can take that away!

Please feel free give the gift of being enough to your friends by sharing this with them! They can click here to get the series delivered directly to them. 

Not pretty enough for those damn holiday photos

It's day six of 12 Days of Enough and I definitely have something to say about this one!

Do you have an aversion to holiday photos? If you have the thought that you aren’t pretty enough, you probably avoid photos all year long, not just at the holidays!

Let’s consider this. Not pretty enough. Who decides what defines ‘pretty?’

Take some time and think about this.

Be a bit of a private investigator of your thought. Where did it come from? Did someone tell you that you aren’t pretty? If so, who was it? Was it a person you love? Or maybe no one said it to you, but you’ve learned to compare yourself to others.

Compare and despair

We always lose when we compare ourselves to others. Even Cindy Crawford does. I've read so many stories of famous women who have built their reputations and fortunes on how they look, yet, when asked, they will criticize their looks or their bodies. There is always someone skinnier or prettier or something. 

Allow yourself to be liberated

If you've ever thought that you aren't pretty enough, I want you to think about why you think that. Dig deep and get all of those thoughts and write them on paper.

The act of writing thoughts and ideas on paper is magical. Sometimes I have a thought that seems very ‘true’ and very important. As I write it down in my journal, I realize how ridiculous the thought is. Nothing happened other than the act of writing it down.

Back to our exercise, you’ve written down everything you can think of that would cause this thought, I’m not pretty enough for holiday photos (or anything else you come up with.)

Alright, now you’ve got your hit list of thoughts. It's time for the liberation. 

Here's the fun part: let’s put them in the mirror.

I know. You may avoid mirrors, but this time, all is well.

This is a magic mirror that will serve you and liberate you to freedom! Take your thoughts and write the opposite.

It looks like this: I am pretty enough for holiday photos. I am pretty. And other opposite statements. While you may be tempted to laugh at these statements, hang on and do this with me.

Stop for a moment and get still. Interrupt the habitual pattern of your thoughts that charge in and tell you the old story about not being pretty enough. You know them well. Let them drop away for a moment.

Let the opposite thought resonate

I am pretty. How is that true? I want you to think of three legitimate reasons why that’s true. I know you have them. 1) A lover, spouse or friend who told you that you’re pretty. 2) A time when you looked in the mirror and had even a speck of a moment where you thought you looked pretty. 3) You realize that being pretty, beauty, is more than our individual features. It’s something that shines from the inside out and you are truly pretty. Beautiful even.

Now, before the well-rehearsed rebuttals start up, stay with these reasons that your opposite thought is true. Let them take root. They seem small because they haven’t had as much time in your mind. Repeat them. Let them settle in. Let them become the new normal. There’s no better gift to give yourself than the gift of experiencing even a few moments of knowing your self-critical thoughts are not true.

Here's what I know for sure this holiday season: you are pretty enough! 

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Feel like you aren't creative enough for all this holiday decorating and hoopla?

Day five of 12 Days of Enough. Do you feel like you aren't creative enough? 

Here's my Live Lavishly Lifestyle Advice: It’s not that you’re not creative enough, it’s that you haven’t found your inspiration.

Broaden your definition of creativity

Creativity is more than painting an original picture or writing an original poem. Creativity is knowing what you like and creating it in your life. You can buy it. That's fine. You use your creativity every time you choose something that gives you joy. 

Remember: the quickest thing to kill creativity is self-criticism

If you think you aren’t creative enough, look for your harsh self-talk. That’s probably the real issue.

I mean, think about it, who would create something if someone was hovering over them criticizing them all the way! Even Picasso wouldn’t be able take it!

Give yourself a loving pat on the head and start your creation, whatever it is.

All along the way, please tell yourself how lovely it is and what a lovely job you are doing creating it. Be the ideal, encouraging teacher we all wanted to have. Or the ideal mother who actually wore the Paper Mache bracelet you made in first grade!

You deserve to feel your creative energy. We all have it. While we’re not all Picasso, thank goodness, we all have creative energy. It gets blocked by self-criticism.

Love your creativity back to life! You are creative enough! 

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