Can we be happy all the time?

“You made me mad!” and, “You make me so happy!” 

Although these figures of speech are very colorful, they also imply that the responsibility for your happiness lies outside you. If someone makes you feel happy/sad/mad/whatever, then that person can also make you feel unhappy/less sad/not mad/whatever. If your mental state is controlled by what another person does, then you can never be truly happy. After all, you can’t control what anyone does, so how can you ever be truly happy for extended periods?

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to dig deep and answer some very important questions regarding today’s subject.

The relationship between a People pleaser and being truly happy.

Can you be happy without a relationship or friends?

Can you make other people happy even if you aren’t?

How can you ever be truly happy for extended periods?

I’m discussing all of these questions in this week’s Episode with my guest Dr. Marissa AKA "The Asian Oprah"

Listen to today’s episode HERE.

And let me finish off with this quote. ~” Don’t be someone else to make others Happy, just be yourself and the right person will Love you for who you are”.

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How do you feel?

I had so much fun interviewing Debbie Emick for this week’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleasers. 

We talked a lot about how perfectionism gets us off course and how we can choose to cultivate the feelings we want to feel instead of letting our circumstances determine what we’re feeling. 

There’s so much power in shifting our feeling-state. 

Debbie has a powerful story that you’re going to love, soooo…. 

Let’s dive in! 

Listen to today’s episode HERE.

Let me and Debbie know what your take-away was from the episode in your comments.

Can Sex be a Gateway to Awakening?

Do you think sex can be a gateway to your own personal, professional and spiritual awakening? 

My podcast guest, Dominey Drew and I, as we discuss how sex and pleasure play a role in our awakening at all levels. 

Dominey and I will share very personal stories - you might want to grab your headphones - and open up about our own awakenings. 

This episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser may stretch your current paradigm about awakening… so I encourage you to open your heart and mind and join us for this amazing conversation! 

Listen to the episode HERE. 

In love, light and awakening, 

Brenda

PS This is in the show notes, but to make it easy…. To connect with Dominey find her on IG: @DomineyDrew - or email her at domineydrew@gmail.com  You can book a call with her, tell her you found her on the Liberate Your People Pleaser Podcast:

https://calendly.com/domineydrewcoaching/exclusive-access-consult

I bet this has happened to you…

Unsolicited advice. 

As people pleasers there are a lot of times we feel like we really need to tell someone what we see, or think they need. 

We see what others need because of our powerful gift of intuition, empathy and insight. 

Here’s the problem. 

To them, it’s unsolicited advice. 

So what do we do? 

Are we holding our tongue and not speaking our truth if we don’t say anything? 

I’ll clear all this up in today's episode, which was inspired by an email I received recently from a listener. 

So, keep those emails, comments and DMs coming! I love to address your specific challenge or question here on Liberate Your People Pleaser. 

The Power of Choice

The worst feeling in the world is to feel like you have no choice. 

You feel trapped. No way out. No alternatives. 

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’ll share with you the way we most often give our power away to other people or situations that will cause us to feel like we don’t have any choices. 

And, of course, I won’t leave you in that disempowered place without any choices… I’ll give you the steps to liberation! 

Listen to today’s episode right now, right HERE. 

In power and choice, 

Brenda

Has Your Light Been Dimmed? 🕯

We’ve all experienced a situation or relationship that dims our light, or knocks the wind out of our sails. 

That’s a clear sign, we’ve lost our power. 

Today, I’ll unpack another lesson I learned during the difficult time of being incredibly broke and Googling homeless shelters a few years ago. 

One of the most profound lessons I learned was that authentic power and possibility are intrinsically linked. When we can access our authentic power, even when our circumstances don’t change, we start finding possibilities. 

I’ve included a really powerful story with one of my coaching clients. I don’t want to spoil the ending so…. 

Listen to the episode HERE.

Tell me if you relate to this?

Regardless of our background and specific life experiences, there are certain things that connect all of us people pleasers! 

Not the least of which is the courage to learn how to speak up for ourselves and live authentically! 

In today’s inspiring interview with my coach and Rapid Transformation Therapy practitioner, Sobia Durrani, you’ll hear how being a people pleaser was triggered by the pressure of being a first generation American. With parents from Pakistan, who naturally had high expectations, plus feeling like she didn’t belong in the US or in Pakistan, Sobia’s story is compelling and needs to be heard. 

We also touch on the issue of “white privilege” and what that means to us. 

You’ll be inspired and get tools to use in your own life from this powerful episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser. 

As always, I welcome your feedback and questions in the comments!

Who Are You Trying To Be?

All of us people pleasers know what it’s like to try to be someone you aren’t.

We want love.

We want approval.

We try desperately to be who our family, spouse, boss, church, or culture wants us to be.

But it’s so hard!

Because that’s not the truth of who we are.

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m unpacking this issue.  

Many of my brothers and sisters in the black, indigenous, people of color and LGBTQ+ communities are deeply impacted by this dilemma, where the cost of being authentic can be especially high.

And yet, we are never truly happy unless we are expressing our authentic nature.

This episode begins a theme that I will revisit in future podcasts. The temptation to abandon our authentic self in order to fit in or get the love, approval and acceptance we all crave, is something that must end. For everyone.

This is an open invitation for you to be a guest on the podcast. If you are black, indigenous, a person of color and/or LGBTQ+ I would love to hear your story on this journey from trying to be someone you aren’t, to discovering your authentic expression and then being able to share that out in the world.

You will inspire and encourage others; this I know for sure.

Please email me at Brenda@BrendaFlorida.com and tell me you are ready to explore sharing your story! Someone is out there waiting to hear it.

Listen to today’s episode HERE.