Why You Don't Need Fixing!

We get these ideas about not being good enough, or something is wrong with us, otherwise… things would be different. 

I am here to say, loud and clear! That is NOT TRUE! 

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! And you do not need fixing. 

What we all need is fine-tuning, or opening up to a higher version of ourselves that doesn’t have all the personal criticisms and judgments that limit us so much! 

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser, you’ll get some tools for turning down the volume on that judgmental voice and turning up the volume on that empowering, loving voice that is within you. 

Listen to the episode HERE.

In Power and Grace,

Brenda

How Does People Pleasing Impact Success?

Often our gifts and talents as a people pleaser help us succeed at work, or in our business…. Until our people pleasing gets in our way. 

When we keep our gifts and talents expressed from the perspective of what’s in my highest good right now? What interests me? What do I want? Then you are using your people pleasing habits as a super-power instead of something that diminishes, exhausts and overwhelms you. 

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I share a very personal story of my professional career where I ended up taking a “mis-step” because I wasn’t tuning into what was in my highest good. 

You’ll get the tools I used to get myself back into alignment with my highest good. 

I’d love to hear how the tools are working for you or if you have a question as you continue to liberate your people pleaser! 

Listen to today’s episode HERE. 

I bet this has happened to you…

Unsolicited advice. 

As people pleasers there are a lot of times we feel like we really need to tell someone what we see, or think they need. 

We see what others need because of our powerful gift of intuition, empathy and insight. 

Here’s the problem. 

To them, it’s unsolicited advice. 

So what do we do? 

Are we holding our tongue and not speaking our truth if we don’t say anything? 

I’ll clear all this up in today's episode, which was inspired by an email I received recently from a listener. 

So, keep those emails, comments and DMs coming! I love to address your specific challenge or question here on Liberate Your People Pleaser. 

The Power of Choice

The worst feeling in the world is to feel like you have no choice. 

You feel trapped. No way out. No alternatives. 

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’ll share with you the way we most often give our power away to other people or situations that will cause us to feel like we don’t have any choices. 

And, of course, I won’t leave you in that disempowered place without any choices… I’ll give you the steps to liberation! 

Listen to today’s episode right now, right HERE. 

In power and choice, 

Brenda

Has Your Light Been Dimmed? 🕯

We’ve all experienced a situation or relationship that dims our light, or knocks the wind out of our sails. 

That’s a clear sign, we’ve lost our power. 

Today, I’ll unpack another lesson I learned during the difficult time of being incredibly broke and Googling homeless shelters a few years ago. 

One of the most profound lessons I learned was that authentic power and possibility are intrinsically linked. When we can access our authentic power, even when our circumstances don’t change, we start finding possibilities. 

I’ve included a really powerful story with one of my coaching clients. I don’t want to spoil the ending so…. 

Listen to the episode HERE.

Getting vulnerable with you....

This week’s Liberate Your People Pleaser episode is definitely the most vulnerable podcast I’ve recorded to date. 

In it, I’ll reveal some of the difficulties that have shaped my life recently and more importantly how to navigate the unknown and difficult circumstances. 

I don’t want to spoil it by saying more here, so hop on over and listen to this week’s episode, “The Unintended Consequence of Positivity.” 

I’d love to hear your feedback!! Can you relate to my story? How have your challenges moved you forward into the person you have become? 

Listen to the episode HERE.

What’s your happiness set-point?

Did you know that we are predisposed to a happiness “set-point?”

If you’ve ever noticed it seems easier for some people to be happier than you are - or visa versa, today’s podcast interview with Kim Strobel will tell you why.  

Kim is a happiness expert and we had a dynamic and exciting conversation on today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser. You can listen HERE or watch the video HERE. 

Our conversation inspired me to get very transparent about some things I’ve been working on, but more than that, Kim’s got some very specific tools you can use to improve your level of happiness.

And if you’re thinking that Kim is an expert on happiness because her life has been overflowing with happiness since the day she was born… guess again! 

Kim shares very intimately her experience with panic attacks and how that took her on a journey to the happiness coaching she does now. 

Don’t miss this inspiring and practical episode for increasing your level of happiness! 

There’s no better way to start 2021!

Don’t you wish you knew this when you were young?

That’s what so many of my clients and workshop attendees say! 

What if… when we were 10, 11, 12 - or when we were a pre-teen or teen we knew…

We didn’t have to silence ourselves to “keep the peace.” 

We could love our bodies, exactly as they are in all their unique beauty? 

We could have the confidence to explore personal style and how we wanted to express ourselves? 

How to get that mean girl inside us - and maybe a few outside of us - to chill out and leave us alone! 

Well, it’s here. 

Grab the girl you know ages 10 - 18 and register her for BOLD Virtual Camp during the boring days of winter break between Christmas and New Years! 

In this special episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser, I’m hanging out with my two coach friends who are teaching BOLD Camp with me. 

You can get all the information and register for BOLD Camp HERE. 

Watch this episode HERE

Tell me if you relate to this?

Regardless of our background and specific life experiences, there are certain things that connect all of us people pleasers! 

Not the least of which is the courage to learn how to speak up for ourselves and live authentically! 

In today’s inspiring interview with my coach and Rapid Transformation Therapy practitioner, Sobia Durrani, you’ll hear how being a people pleaser was triggered by the pressure of being a first generation American. With parents from Pakistan, who naturally had high expectations, plus feeling like she didn’t belong in the US or in Pakistan, Sobia’s story is compelling and needs to be heard. 

We also touch on the issue of “white privilege” and what that means to us. 

You’ll be inspired and get tools to use in your own life from this powerful episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser. 

As always, I welcome your feedback and questions in the comments!

Being a People Pleaser When You’re Dating or in a Relationship…. Sucks!

It’s a lethal combo - People Pleasing and dating… or being the people pleaser in a romantic relationship! 

Why? 

We do too much. 

We give too much. 

We get hurt too much. 

And this is when “too much” isn’t what we’re going for! 

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’ll give you some hard won strategies for how to keep people pleasing out of your romantic relationships! 

Whether you’re dating or in a relationship you’ll get the big transformation I had to make in order to keep my people pleasing ways out of my dating life! 

Listen to today’s episode HERE. 

Tell me what your biggest dating or romantic challenge is. There’s nothing more important than keeping certain aspects of being a people pleaser out of the bedroom!

Is there a dark side to empathy?

I have so many clients who are plagued by being so empathetic, they are overwhelmed by all the feelings they are picking up from others, and they struggle to set boundaries. 

I can relate. 

I had a profound moment one day in a conversation with a man I was dating at the time, that has changed my attitude about empathy and boundaries. 

You’ll hear all about this truly transformations and frankly, dramatic, moment in my life, in today’s, Liberate Your People Pleaser Podcast. (I’m hoping you also notice the fresh new logo!) 

You’ll also find out how to keep empathy from getting in the way of the boundaries you need to set with lovers, family, friends and at work! 

I’m stoked that the podcast is now on Google Play, Spotify, Apple Podcast, YouTube and my website! Here are all the individual links for you to find it on your favorite podcast app. 

Google Podcasts, HERE.

Spotify, HERE.

Apple Podcasts, HERE.

My Website, HERE.

I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and see your review of the podcast!

Who Are You Trying To Be?

All of us people pleasers know what it’s like to try to be someone you aren’t.

We want love.

We want approval.

We try desperately to be who our family, spouse, boss, church, or culture wants us to be.

But it’s so hard!

Because that’s not the truth of who we are.

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m unpacking this issue.  

Many of my brothers and sisters in the black, indigenous, people of color and LGBTQ+ communities are deeply impacted by this dilemma, where the cost of being authentic can be especially high.

And yet, we are never truly happy unless we are expressing our authentic nature.

This episode begins a theme that I will revisit in future podcasts. The temptation to abandon our authentic self in order to fit in or get the love, approval and acceptance we all crave, is something that must end. For everyone.

This is an open invitation for you to be a guest on the podcast. If you are black, indigenous, a person of color and/or LGBTQ+ I would love to hear your story on this journey from trying to be someone you aren’t, to discovering your authentic expression and then being able to share that out in the world.

You will inspire and encourage others; this I know for sure.

Please email me at Brenda@BrendaFlorida.com and tell me you are ready to explore sharing your story! Someone is out there waiting to hear it.

Listen to today’s episode HERE.

Do You Want to be Seen, Heard and Valued?

So many clients come to me because they are sick of NOT being seen, heard and valued by their lover, boss, or someone else important to them.

For people pleasers this is particularly common because we were conditioned to abandon our authenticity in order to please others. But there is a solution

Today’s Liberate Your People Pleaser episode I will give you specific steps to begin to be seen, heard and valued in your life.

You can start today. There’s nothing more powerful than being seen, heard and valued. You deserve it and you can have it!

Listen to today’s episode HERE. Then share your take-away and what you did in the exercise I gave you. No spoiler alerts. Go watch the episode then tell me all about it!

Taking a Big Leap after Failure

I’ve totally bombed a few times in my life. 

I’m being vulnerable and honest in this week’s episode. You can listen to it HERE.

I am in the middle of another big leap right now. 

I’ve had to be diligent with my mindset. My last big leap was a bomb! So, it’s easy to get fearful with this big leap. 

Fear is not helpful in taking a big leap! In fact, it’s like staring into a wall you don’t want to his and boom! You hit it because you’ve been staring at it! 

I don’t want to spoil the episode. Watch it HERE, then tell me about one of your big leaps!

Is it THAT Simple?

Sometimes things are simple, but not necessarily easy. 

Boundaries can be that way for us people pleasers. 

We get the concept, usually, but, how to do it… that’s something else all together! 

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’ve got some amazing steps to break down the boundary settling process. 

Catch today’s episode HERE. 

One of the things I mention in the episode is my new Boundaries for People Pleasers coaching package. If you’ve got a boundary that needs setting, this package is for you! 

You can get more deets about Boundaries for People Pleasers HERE.

There’s nothing more important to learn than how to set boundaries and trust me, what ever impossible feeling situation you have… together we can find the answer to setting the boundary and liberating your people pleaser!

You’re Going To Like This!

Have you ever rebelled? 

Sure you have! 

I was such a serious people pleaser it took me until I was in my late 30’s to actually do it, but, when I did… I’m just sayin… I was a rebellion expert for about 10 years! 

Rebellion can be a gift. 

I’m serious! 

I needed to rebel to get out of all the thoughts and away from all the people who were keeping me very limited. 

I’ll tell you more about it in today’s podcast episode, “Rebellion Is A Gift.”

I hope after you listen to the episode you’ll be able to find the ways your rebellion has served you. 

I’d love to hear about it! Let me know in the comments and tell me about it. Better yet, if you rebelled and you can’t see how it served you, share that with me and I’ll help you find the gift. 

I can’t wait to hear what you think about this episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser!